What It Means to Marry the Eldest Son
Mira Chaudhry reflects on the quiet work of loving someone who was never taught how to put himself first.
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What It Means to Marry the Eldest Son
I married the eldest son of a South Asian family in Dallas, which means I did not just marry a man. I married a role. A reputation. A set of expectations that arrived fully formed, like an heirloom no one remembers buying but everyone agrees must be kept in the family.
If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to marry the eldest son, imagine joining a household where your husband has been emotionally employed since childhood. His résumé began early: dependable, responsible, good with elders, calm in a crisis, terrible at saying no. References available upon request. Always.